Saturday
24 February | 2024

Lahore, Pakistan

Comfort someone in grief before a human fellow falls silent

Take care of yourself and your fellow human beings, as we have no idea what others in our circle are going through, or what worries weigh them down

We all face our share of problems. Regardless of age, the intensity of these struggles is known only to the person experiencing them. It’s easy for us to brush them off and dismiss them as insignificant, but we should exercise caution because our perspective is limited. We fail to fully comprehend their point of view. Every individual battle with their unique challenges and often yearns for someone to confide in. However, initiating such discussions is not always effortless. Why is that? Are we inherently judgmental? Do we possess the right to pass judgment? If we were to view our own problems and stressful situations from another person’s standpoint, would we still perceive them as problems, or are we merely deceiving ourselves?

It is vital that we pay attention to those around us and sincerely inquire about their well-being and genuine happiness. Let’s create an environment where they feel comfortable opening up about their feelings. Although, it may not always be evident, people often provide hints that they want to talk. Unfortunately, we frequently fail to notice these signs because we neglect to invest the time and effort required. We should be observant of their preferred topics of conversation and the content they share on social media. However, it is also our failure for not being attentive enough. We become entangled in our own mixed emotions, rendering it impossible for anyone to address them until we make a conscious effort to confront our issues.

‘When we listen to others and try to see their issues from their perspective, we inadvertently help ourselves’

There are moments when we sense that something crucial is missing from our lives. We search for it, even though we are uncertain what it might be. It could be a person, a sense of purpose, a place, or even ourselves. Our minds are inundated with countless thoughts, making it challenging to discern the ones that truly matter in the present moment. Some individuals harbor self-loathing, blaming themselves for their actions towards others or the poor decisions that have adversely impacted their lives. For some, life seems like an unending nightmare. But how did life come to be this way? How did we transition from vibrant individuals who relished life’s small pleasures to desolate and despondent beings? We long for our youthful selves and the confidence we once possessed.

Often, we yearn to experience happiness just one more time. We laugh, we smile, yet it no longer evokes the same bliss it once did. Our younger selves were naive, believing that incredible wonders awaited us on this Earth. Accepting the harsh reality proved arduous. Perhaps we should have never grown up; maybe then, we could have savored life’s fleeting moments a bit more. We seek someone who will listen and understand us without judgment. We yearn for someone who can serve as a sounding board for our emotions. But why don’t we become that person for others? Listening to someone is not as daunting as it seems.

Comfort someone in grief before a human fellow falls silent
‘We can form connections with animal species without uttering a word. It shouldn’t be too challenging for us to connect with people’

I firmly believe that the best way to alleviate our problems is to discuss them. When we listen to others and try to see their issues from their perspective, we inadvertently help ourselves. We gather the courage to open up about our problems with someone. Just remember, when you lend an ear to someone, strive to be nonjudgmental. We, as humans, can form connections with various animal species without uttering a word. So, it shouldn’t be too challenging for us to connect with people. Everyone hopes for a unique character to enter their lives; be that character for others. Be a listener before someone falls silent. We have no idea what others in our circle are going through, or what worries weigh them down. Take care of yourself and your fellow human beings.

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